12 Sep How to Make Your Beard Softer
“I’m not going to kiss you again until you shave off that beard.” That is what my girlfriend, Julia, said to me one day about 3 years ago.
I was a bit shocked when Julia said it. I mean, I had a beard for the entire 4 years we were dating. But she was dead serious about it. “I’m tired of getting scratched by that thing when we make out.”
So this was a real dilemma for me. I consider myself quite the rugged fellow – I love my beard. My beard defines me. It gives me character. I even gave my beard a name: LeGruff. So I didn’t want to shave it off.
But I really, really loved making out with Julia, and I didn’t want to give that up either. So what was a guy to do? I honestly had no idea, so grasping at straws, I said to Julia, “Give me 30 days. If I can’t make my beard softer and easier on you, I’ll shave it off.” She agreed.
A Lack of Answers
That night, I began to research furiously about how I could best go about softening my beard. But 3 years ago, there was and still is a dearth of information online on how to make your beard softer. So I went through a bit of a trial and error approach trying to find something that worked.
What didn’t work for me was leave-in hair conditioner. My thought processes was that beard hair must be just like regular hair, right? So I should use the same hair products on it. Nope. Sure, leave-in conditioners may help improve the smell of your beard, but it won’t make it soft.
Understand What Makes Your Beard Rough
Before I found an answer to my problem, I had to step back and understand what was making my beard rough to begin with. I realized that my beard was rough for 2 reasons. Reason number 1: my beard was as dry as the desert. There was no moisture to my beard hair follicles. Reason number 2: I had split ends and knots forming in my beard.
So a two-pronged problem called for a two-pronged solution.
Two Simple Steps to Soften Your Beard
To make your beard softer, you’ll need to pick up a quality beard oil and a quality beard balm. Make sure you know the differences between the two types of beard grooming products. Here are the precise steps to follow:
In the morning, wash you face with warm water. Then, add a few drops of the beard oil in your hand and massage it into your beard. Washing with warm water opens your pores and allows the beard oil to really soak in. Rub the beard oil in your hands and then comb in throughout your entire beard with your hands and fingers all the way down to skin on your face. What the beard oil does is add moisture to your beard.
At night, after you shower, apply a very small amount of beard balm into your beard. Rub the beard balm between your palms to heat it and make it workable. With an even spread of beard balm in the hands, work it throughout your beard from the roots to the end of the follicles. Where the main purpose of the oil is to add moisture, the beard balm will address the split ends and knots.
Follow this exact process for 14 days to make your beard softer and you will absolutely be pleased with the results. After all, it worked for me – Julia is now my wife.
Guest article by Stephen Joseph, a beardologist and co-founder of BeardPros.com.